5 Things You Can Do Today To Improve Your Relationship with your Dog
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5 Things You Can Do Today To Improve Your Relationship with your Dog


Have you ever had one of those moments with your dog when things just didn’t go right? When you felt like the worst dog owner ever?

We’ve all had those times. When you didn’t adequately prepare. When your training didn’t go to plan. When you failed to see something coming. When you reacted too slowly. When you got it wrong. It feels horrible. It is so easy to get downhearted and to beat ourselves up with guilt and the feeling that we could have done better for our dogs.

What if there was a different way? A way in which there is leeway for your errors? Where you can be a well intentioned but ultimately perfectly imperfect human, yet your dog will still think you rock?

Such a way does exist and it is so open to you. And that way is through working on your relationship with your dog. The relationship you have with your dog is like the cement that holds all the bricks of your training work together. Build up a great relationship and become a true team with your dog and your relationship will then be flexible enough to roll with any punches, overcome any errors, and go forward stronger and better than ever. How cool is that!

How is your relationship with your dog?

Signs of a healthy relationship:

  • dog is generally well behaved
  • few issues
  • reliable recall
  • listens to you
  • wants to engage with you

Signs that your relationship needs work:

  • doesn’t listen to you
  • poor recall
  • barking
  • lunging
  • jumping up
  • sniffing
  • ignoring you
  • dog lacks confidence

Can you boost relationship? Yes, absolutely. Relationship is 100% something you can work on, and should work on. It is the bedrock for a great life with your dog. The joint bank account you never knew you had!

The brilliant thing is that we are in full control of how we influence the relationship. We might not realise it - which is why things can get so bad so quickly - but we influence our relationship with our dog with every interaction we have with our dog.

You and your dog have a joint Relationship Bank Account, and as with a financial bank account, it has a balance. The higher the balance, the better your relationship with your dog. The lower the balance, the more chance you have of experiencing difficulties.

The bad news is that life and the world conspire to make withdrawals from your Relationship Bank Account, some of which we cannot control.

Such negative interactions are things like:

Experiences such as these can create a negative shared experience with your dog, and that withdraws from your account.

What can we do to repair our relationship with our dog?

Are we doomed to failure then, with such adversity lying in wait to damage our relationship with our dog? Never! We are Gamechanging Solution Seekers. Let’s take control of this and transform what we don’t want to what we do want. We have the magic key to overcome all of these negative events and that is: positivity.

Positive interactions pay into your Relationship Bank Account and re-build the balance depleted by the negative interactions life and the world throw at you. So the more positive interactions you can pay into your account, the higher your balance will be and the better protected your relationship will be from those inevitable withdrawals.

Positivity: the Relationship Gamechanger

What does your dog love? How can you get more of it into their lives?

Get paying into that Relationship Bank Account with positive interactions such as:

  • playing a GAME with your dog - FUNDER, middle, magic hand, are all amazing for bond building
  • massage or stroking
  • grooming
  • feeding
  • playing tug or with a favourite toy
  • exploring the environment together
  • exercising together
  • participating in dog sports
  • training

The key thing here is to know your dog. Some dogs may not find some of the items on this list the least bit positive, some may love them all. Remember that your dog decides what is positive - know what works for dog.

The Bank Account with Amazing Relationship Benefits

Always be looking to make payment. You can never have too high a credit balance in your Relationship Bank Account so look to pay in at every opportunity.

If having an amazing bond with your dog wasn’t enough of a reward, the Relationship Bank Account is a fancy account as it also pays dividends. Where you have a high balance in your relationship account, you are more likely to have a dog who is relaxed, calm, loves to be around you, wants to listen to you, and can’t wait to interact with you.

You won’t need to compete with the environment for your dog’s attention - he will have no desire to run off and play with others dogs, or to sniff the ground, or to forage for snacks - he will have eyes only for you.

You will have a dog that is secure in your bond and thus has the confidence to go about in the world and to deal with whatever life throws at him. He knows you’ve got his back, that you are his team mate in life, and that no matter what comes up, you’ll face it together. You will be a true team - and who wouldn’t want that?

Five things you can do to top up your Relationship Bank Account today

1. Play games: Low pressure games that will pay in mightily to your Relationship Bank Account, and as a side-effect are designed to boost the fitness, health and vitality of your dog too! Try 30 days of Fitness here for some low pressure games

2. Play with your dog or play with toys: do you know what your dog’s favourite toy is? Play with him and find out today. We incorporate play into every GAME we train!

3.Explore new things: either out and about on your walk, perhaps trying a new place to walk. Why not try something new at home? Check out our DVD & Book range, available on our website here for fun new things to try, from boundaries to fitness, and all delivered through games based concept training. There’s always a game for that!

4.Check out our Free Optimism Rocks ebook: bonding doesn’t always have to be go, go, go! Get your free copy here and boost the credit balance on your relationship bank account with some synchronised optimism-boosting if you dog barks and lunges sometimes!

5. Know your dog’s positives and negatives: Knowing your dog's positive and negative interactions allows you to keep track and make appropriate adjustments throughout the day!

Make those payments

Relationship power is the secret weapon of dog training and dog life. It is so easily and frequently overlooked, yet can transform the life you live with your dog so profoundly. So get paying into that Relationship Bank Account with your dog whenever you can.

Create an amazing bond with your dog. Create an amazing life with your dog.